I am a lifelong Dominant woman known as RednBlack (call me Red, everyone does), deeply involved in the Melbourne Kink & BDSM scene from 2007, a former owner of the first 24/7 kink club, Splinter, and current owner of FETLOSOPHY.COM, book, skillshares, and sensual candles. First and foremost I am an educator, with a long history of creating and presenting seminars and group discussions, in Australia and overseas, and talks and skillshares on various topics of kink practice.

My professional history includes 17 years as a Research Associate (PhD) with the School of Philosophical, Historical and International Studies, Monash University and a long list of published works in the field of Medieval History.

I am a warm and caring dominant with a sadistic streak a mile long, which basically means that I will fuck you over until you stop me and then cuddle you to death. Main interests include TPE (total power exchange), medical play, impact play, and rope bondage, in this order.

I am currently working on a series of BDSM / fetish erotic novels, short stories and some poetry.

There is a question that usually resurfaces around the Fetish expo: ‘what are FL candles made of’?

There is a short answer and a long one.

Short answer:

FL candles are a soy blend, consisting of soy, paraffin, oils, colour and other additives. They are vegan friendly. 

Long answer:

After the closure of our club Splinter and the beginning of the pandemic, I decided to spend some time creating the perfect formula for wax play candles. I wanted stand alone (pillar) candles, warm and soft, peeling off easily, moisturising the skin, not leaving a colour stain after removal, don’t pull hair out and consisting of vegan friendly components.

I wrote down these requirements and started experimenting. With every experiment my partner lost some more of his body hair, poor thing, until I managed to get it right.  

It took me 3 years initially and ongoing improvements, until all my requirements were met and the wax didn’t even pull on the hair on removal. The process involves an hermetically closed chamber with temp, humidity and pressure control for pouring and setting and an elaborate set up for polishing. It also involves oils for perfect removal and skin moisturising and minerals for colouring which don't stain the skin. 

I have considered applying for a patent, but found it to be too expensive. So I destroyed all my notes and decided to keep the formula in my head only.

I find it very difficult to keep people engaged and interested when I give the long answer, so I choose to give the short one and only when asked. If you got this far, you have probably been interested in my story.